episode when Betty seduced Don at their kid’s summer camp, well after they had both remarried.Afterward, when they’re lying in bed together, Betty says of Don’s new wife, “That poor girl.
She doesn’t know that loving you is the worst way to get to you.” Harsh.
But sometimes, romantic friendships can offer a type of intimacy that committed relationships can’t.
Some assume that one of the “buddies” is always being strung along, secretly hoping that the fucking leads to something more serious.
Others dismiss fuck-buddy dynamics as just being compulsive sex that’s devoid of emotion. Surely it’s possible to find a middle ground between eternal love and zombie-fucking a stranger: a place where you can care about someone, have good sex, and yet not want to literally implode at the thought of them sleeping with someone else. Case in point: The most significant romantic friendship of my life was with an ex-editor of mine, whom I’ll call Malcolm.
This is a declaration for anyone who's in a long-term relationship in their 20s and has felt pressure to "see what else is out there." Some people think that being in a relationship in your 20s makes no sense at all.
I have a sense of stability that allows me to focus on my career rather than wasting energy worrying about if that guy will text me back or if I'll ever fall in love.
And sure, when he would get a girlfriend I would be a little bummed out—I’m (unfortunately) not a sociopath—but it didn’t cause me to spiral into an emotional cyclone the way I would have if I’d been cheated on by a boyfriend. We could spill our guts to each other because we didn’t have anything to lose.
I told Malcolm about my previous relationships, my fantasies, my heartbreak.
It was while planning this vacation that it hit me: The two longest relationships of my life have both been with men who I was never officially dating.
Boyfriends and girlfriends have come and gone, but my friends with benefits have stood the test of time. That’s longer than I predict my first marriage will last.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years.